Negative People

I've learned something new this week, which is truly astonishing, not because of the information, just because the nature of it.  Negative people are ALWAYS going to remain negative.  Those who do nothing but complain about others, have a tendency to always focus themselves.  My grandmother, (whom I love dearly, so please don't think anything I say is meant as not caring). If I did not care it wouldn't bother me. I have been running her around to her various dr. appts. errands she wants to run and anything else I can help her with.  She was diagnosed last year with lymphoma.  She did 8 treatments of an immunological drug since she refused to go through Chemo, some how managed not to see her oncologist the entire duration of her treatments, which didn't make any sense to me, since they need to keep an eye on her progress and if the treatment is working.  She is staying at my mother's ( God Bless Her) and I'm doing all the transporting.  I have the use of her car so that I can be there when she needs me, and its a fair trade off that I use it to go to school.  I'm getting off point here. So, Monday we go see her oncologist for the results from all her various scans.  And GOOD NEWS!, NO TUMOR CAN BE SEEN.  It has disappeared and her lymph nodes are back to normal.  She was happy, but not overjoyed and bursting with happiness. She was more concerned with getting out of there. She has to go ever two months for a couple of years for maintenance, to keep it from returning.  So her port cannot come out.  And all she has done since this whole thing started was complain that she could get her hair permed because she was taking CHEMO.  She told this to everyone she spoke to. So because her hair dresser thinks she is on chemo that she cannot give her a perm.  When we asked the oncologist about the perm, she told us " she could have had a perm this whole time, she isn't on chemo drugs, she is on immunological drugs. Very different type of therapy and has no effect on the hair. For months anyone and everyone has heard her complain about how she hates her straight hair can't wait to get a perm. She hasn't had straight hair in over 35 years and it just looks awful.  Her words not mine. I think she looks great with her straight hair. But because she was telling everyone she was taking chemo, she screwed herself.  I don't know if she truly thought she was on chemo or just confused about what she was taking, or wanted people to feel sorry for her. Everyone complimented her hair, but damn if she could actually just say "thank you" instead of launching into how she is taking chemo and she hates how her hair looks blah, blah, blah. I think you get the idea.  We lost a set of her car keys when we went to her house to pick some things up over a month ago. I found them that same Monday.  She was happy for about 2 seconds and than she started complaining about her house is dirty and might as well just burn the thing down and smash everything she has.  She said something similar when we were having her car worked on.  Very melodramatic and negative.  Apparently she has always been this way, but I didn't notice when I was a kid, or as she has gotten worse as she's gotten older. But her sisters are all the same way.  They can't say a good thing about anyone, unless your in the room. Once you leave, the knives come out.  Sad thing is they can't even get along for more than five mins before they start on each other.  Please save me from turning into her.  I don't want to be a person like that.  The woman is 90 years old and should be happy she is still here, while so many others have died. She is still mobile, she isn't confined to a bed, she doesn't even look her age. She is always complimented when we go somewhere and still can't just say "thank you".  The moral is, if you are negative early in life you are going to be worse when you get older.  There are so many things I could tell about her, but that would be a long, long, "blog".  Stopping now, otherwise I never will....