Plans

Last week I posted what I would like to happen for Valentine's Day.  None of this happened, however I did get the standard candy and flowers.  Can I just say from my point of view that flowers are nice, candy I could do without, and it would have been nice if he'd spent a little money and maybe had them delivered to me at school or something special like that.  I know the gesture was a last minute deal, but he at least made the effort.  However, all I have ever asked for, is a card.  One that expresses how he feels about me in writing.  In ten years I have NEVER gotten a card from him.  Is this a bad sign or does he just suck and doesn't want to bother with taking the time to find a card?  Cards are less expensive and can mean more than flowers that are going to die and candy that really I don't need, and most of these assorted chocolates don't even have candy that I like.  My grandmother bought a ten dollar box of chocolates for me, and I told her outright that I wished she hadn't bought it.  I told her thank you, but for ten dollars, you could have a decent lunch.  She already spends too much money as it is, I appreciate the gesture, but I really wished she hadn't got them. Still haven't opened them.
As for the night, that was out the window as soon as his mom called and asked him to take her to the hospital.  She'd called him like 5 times during the day, while he was at work and CLOSER, instead she waits until he gets all the way home in DELTONA to ask him this.  She lives in Meadow Woods, which is almost Kissimmee.  I have no problem with him helping his mom when she calls, she's his mom.  But why didn't she ask while he was closer?  That was why she had called him so many times during the day, but for some reason couldn't ask him.  Here is the kicker though.  She has 2 daughters who live with her and they couldn't be bothered to take her to the hospital.  They are tired of her always complaining and wanting to go to the hospital etc...The lady fell in her bathroom from blacking out the night before, hit her head on the marble counter top and then of course the floor.  The next day she had a massive headache and thought something might be wrong.  Anyway, he gets there and the youngest daughter is there with her boyfriend, and basically told him that they were tired of her many complaints and were mad at her so that's why they won't take her to the hospital.  WTF!  These "children" are full grown adults.  They don't contribute to the bills, they don't do anything around the house and as far as I have been able to tell, they don't care about their mom or Ky (Key).  When their father died, they were more concerned with the money they were going to get and how quickly they could put mom in a home.  Ky of course didn't have any rights to anything because he wasn't his father.  I had to keep him calm before he started fighting his family over his mom. 
He was raised by his grandparents because his mom married a Chinese man (she and him are Vietnamese) and the grandparents knew that he wouldn't treat Ky the same or even well.  He was a sick kid, had to have several heart surgeries, had a valve replaced and given a life span of maybe 20 yrs. (he's almost 40 now).  His grandparents refused to let her take him.  She was to absorbed in her new husband.  When they died, he had to no choice but to move in with his mom.  It didn't last long. The husband and Ky never got along so it didn't last.  Any time he went over to visit her, the husband would always start an argument with him or say something snide and made sure he knew he wasn't wanted at the house.
Before he died they did come to terms and started treating each other better. But maybe that was because he knew he was going to blow his own head off. I don't know. Anyway, Ky drove all the way over there, took her to the hospital and stayed until they got her in a room around 4 a.m.  Then he came home.  That was my Valentine's Day.  After many tests they determined she was ok and could go home.  He was going to go pick her up, but one of the worthless sisters actually got off her butt and picked her up. Thank you God!  We are poor.  We cannot afford to pay all this gas going back and forth and his mom knows this, but felt she had no other choice.  Going from Deltona to Kissimmee then to the hospital and then back home.  That was over $20 in gas right there.  But it was something he had to do and I don't begrudge him for it.  I do however think his sisters and is brother are worthless and just hanging around waiting for mom to bite it.  He has one sister who lives in St. Croix, and she is the ONLY one of his siblings to call him on his birthday, call just to check how he is doing, and calls on the holidays.  She is the only one who's worth anything.  She is the only one who actually cares about her brother and her mom.  Too bad she's not here to help Ky fight the others, because he is seriously outnumbered.  But if she had to, she would jump on a plane and be here as quick as she could. So that was my Valentine's Day.  This is why, when you plan something, always expect the plan to fall through, just in case.  That way you are not disappointed. Have a happy weekend!