Lots of people don't like to use public restrooms, and if they do use them, even if the bathroom is very clean and offers seat covers, they refuse to sit on the seat. This in turn causes the person for whatever reason to pee all over the seat. I would expect this from men, (no offense) but for women its absolutely deplorable. I am not one of those people who won't sit on the seat of a public restroom. I have never caught anything from it, and the worse feeling you can have is sitting on a seat and getting someone else's urine on you. Or you have to clean off someone else's urine off the seat in order to use the bathroom. This is a plea to everyone, to be respectful and clean when you use a restroom. Would you pee all over your toilet seat at home and not wipe it off?? Then why do it in public. Don't use the excuse they don't know, because they damn well know. I make exceptions for people who are elderly and have incontinence so they are always wet and don't necessarily look to see if they left anything behind. I know I've walked into a bathroom behind my grandmother many times and had to clean up after her. I make it a habit to have to "use" the restroom when she is done. I then clean up her mess so the next person doesn't have to see it or deal with it. But for people of age who are completely capable, have no excuse other than being nasty and having no regard for the next person who may have to use that restroom, I have nothing but contempt for you.
If you have to stand and pee because you don't want to sit, even with the seat cover available for your use, and you make a mess, CLEAN IT UP! I don't want to have to do it and I'm sure the next person behind you doesn't want to have to touch some strangers urine and disinfect it so they can use the potty. If you can't use a public restroom without being nasty about it, than wait until you go home and pee all over the seat there. I'm tired of walking into a bathroom and there is a urine all over the seat. Sad thing is, it's becoming more and more common here at school. Just because we have janitorial service doesn't make them your personal cleaner upper. Grow up and be responsible and stop being nasty. I hope this goes public and people will become aware of their actions, but my intuition tells me they already know and don't care about the next person. It's people like this cause others to start doing it. Personally I'm going to clean it up, not add to it. Sit down, I promise it won't kill you. Just check the seat first.
Friday, March 14, 2014
Part 2
Last night, Ky was called to his mom's house at 1130 at night to go deal with her. She said she had problems breathing and the sisters didn't want to deal with it. So off he goes, missing another day of work which we can't afford, because these worthless girls are just that, worthless. She really does need to see a neurologist, I think she does have something wrong, she keeps having muscle spasms on one side of her body and this is not something you can fake. If you can I want to see it. I think it might have a lot to do with everything she says she is feeling. For now though, she is going to go to her "home town" of New Orleans and stay with her sister for a month. Flying makes her nervous and I'm sure the build up the actual flight is effecting her. Ky is going to fly with her to N.O, stay the night and come home Sunday evening. The oldest sister, who also has power of attorney, has stated now that she is tired of all the drama and she's moving out (we'll see). If that is the case however, and she follows through, Ky says he will have to move in there with her. Now this is a problem on many fronts. I like my house, even if it's technically not mine, since I rent. I own a pit bull and a Chihuahua. She doesn't want animals in her home. I can respect that. But I will not give up my "children" to go live there with him and her. I also would not be comfortable staying there as it's not my home, her English isn't very strong, so communication is limited, and I don't want to live so far from MY mom and grandmother. Nothing will be decided until I finish school, but I already know I won't be going with him. Does this mean the end of my relationship? I hope not. Hopefully something can be worked out, but I can't under any circumstances see me living in the same house as his mother and it's not because I would feel obligated to help take care of her because I'm there. I would help just because it's what to do. Now I'm lost and confused and don't know what to do.
This blog is for class, but I just might keep it going even if no one reads it. It's a good way to vent, if nothing else.
This blog is for class, but I just might keep it going even if no one reads it. It's a good way to vent, if nothing else.
Parents and Grandparents
Some of us are old enough to have aging parents and if lucky still have a grandparent(s) around. Sometimes it falls to us the children and grandchildren to take care of them. Sometimes it falls to us to have to take care of them, even if it means living with them. If you already live with them, and you don't pay anything to live there and your sole responsibility is to take care of your parent, why is it such a problem? If they say they don't feel well, or want to go to the hospital, you should do it. If there are two children living in the house, the same applies. Why do we complain about taking care of them if that's what we are there for? Why is the first thing that comes to mind is sticking them away somewhere? I've written a lot about my grandma, but I don't think I ever complain or moaned about all the doctor visits I have to take her to, driving her out to her home to pick up her mail, as she temporally(?) staying with my mom. Yes, I've put her in her place when I couldn't take HER complaining about certain things, but never about her health. Do I think she might have a touch of hypochondria? Yeah. If someone is sick, she seems to always come down with something. Funny even her doctor pointed it out to her on her last visit to her PCP. BUT, it's her body, her money and if she needs to go to the doctor 5 times a day then so be it. I don't live with her, but I'm her taxi and the closest person who actually understands what is going on. I have to constantly explain to her what her doctor is telling her. It frustrates her when they talk to me, but there is a reason for that. She doesn't listen very well, she's half deaf, and she takes away what she wants to hear and not the rest. This is where I have to intervene and explain things to her. This doesn't frustrate me. The complaining about her dirty house and her son who is taking care of things while she is gone. I think I wrote about having it out with her a few weeks ago or maybe even earlier than that. It seems to have made a slight impact. We went to her house on Monday after her doctor appointment, and she wanted to go inside. I had already set the rule that if I take her there, she either stays in the car while I grab what she wants, or if she goes inside no complaining about anything. I reminded her of this when she started to get out of the car and she told me she remembered and she would do her best. Low and behold, not one complaint about her house. Didn't even get down in the mouth and gave a compliment to her son about weeding out her flower garden. He of course can't take a compliment that is given, he has to complain it wasn't a good enough compliment. He is such another story I'm not going further than that. My point is, I think I got through to her, at least a little bit.
But this isn't about my grandma per se, it was just an example. Now the other "example" I gave about the two daughters are the complete opposite. They live with their mom, who is retired at 60, (long story) and it primarily the oldest sister who should be taking care of her mom, but no reason the little sister can't help. It's pathetic that they live in the same house, but if mom needs anything she has to call her daughter on the phone, who is in the house, to come help her. They see her as an inconvenience and they blame her for their father's suicide. No one put that gun in his hand, he's the one who did it all. Regardless of if they were having marriage problems, you don't kill yourself because of it. So the anger is misplaced, they should be angry with their father, which is far healthier than being angry with your mother and blaming her. They don't take into account that she lost her husband and mate for the last 35 years. She can't talk to them because they don't want to listen. They are there for the money and easy ride. God forbid they should actually have to do something to help her. They call her a hypochondriac and they are tired of it. Hypochondriac usually are that way for a reason. The don't get any attention otherwise and so the only way they know to get attention is to feel ill. Maybe start spending time out, away from the house would help. Take her on outings, and try to get her involved with people she can feel comfortable with. This woman still has not received any comfort from her children about the loss of her husband. They just place blame. And they want the money. If she is gone, committed or otherwise, they have the money. This seems to me like their plan from the get go. I was at the hospital the night her husband did what he did. 4 of his six siblings were already debating on how long it would take to put "mama" in the nuthouse. The man was still alive, and none of them sat with her while we were waiting for the news if he would make it or not as he didn't complete the job. Her son and the one daughter who lives her on her own with hew two kids are the ones who sat with her, and mainly her son. He held her when she cried. The others didn't even want to be in the same room.
Despite the circumstances, be kind to your parents and your grandparents. They raised you, sheltered you and loved you. Why in their time of need can't we at least do the same for them?
But this isn't about my grandma per se, it was just an example. Now the other "example" I gave about the two daughters are the complete opposite. They live with their mom, who is retired at 60, (long story) and it primarily the oldest sister who should be taking care of her mom, but no reason the little sister can't help. It's pathetic that they live in the same house, but if mom needs anything she has to call her daughter on the phone, who is in the house, to come help her. They see her as an inconvenience and they blame her for their father's suicide. No one put that gun in his hand, he's the one who did it all. Regardless of if they were having marriage problems, you don't kill yourself because of it. So the anger is misplaced, they should be angry with their father, which is far healthier than being angry with your mother and blaming her. They don't take into account that she lost her husband and mate for the last 35 years. She can't talk to them because they don't want to listen. They are there for the money and easy ride. God forbid they should actually have to do something to help her. They call her a hypochondriac and they are tired of it. Hypochondriac usually are that way for a reason. The don't get any attention otherwise and so the only way they know to get attention is to feel ill. Maybe start spending time out, away from the house would help. Take her on outings, and try to get her involved with people she can feel comfortable with. This woman still has not received any comfort from her children about the loss of her husband. They just place blame. And they want the money. If she is gone, committed or otherwise, they have the money. This seems to me like their plan from the get go. I was at the hospital the night her husband did what he did. 4 of his six siblings were already debating on how long it would take to put "mama" in the nuthouse. The man was still alive, and none of them sat with her while we were waiting for the news if he would make it or not as he didn't complete the job. Her son and the one daughter who lives her on her own with hew two kids are the ones who sat with her, and mainly her son. He held her when she cried. The others didn't even want to be in the same room.
Despite the circumstances, be kind to your parents and your grandparents. They raised you, sheltered you and loved you. Why in their time of need can't we at least do the same for them?
Friday, March 7, 2014
Obamacar or the so call Affordable Care Act and Florida
So I did my taxes yesterday after school. I don't have a job, but I still file anyway. Plus if you are in school you get a tax credit. So I would be stupid to miss out on the tax credit. After I finished my taxes, I was asked if I wanted to sign up at the Marketplace. Deadline is March 31 so I hit the button to go to the market place. After answering a few questions including my income which I put down as $0 because I don't have an income at this time and haven't for over two years. I am dependent on boyfriend and mom right now. Once out of school all this will change but until then I'm unemployed.
Can you believe I was told that I was NOT eligible for Medicaid, and I had to look for insurance on the Marketplace website??? The lowest quote from them was $350 and that was for really bad coverage. Paid only 60 percent, high ded. and high co-pays. I ask this question: How does someone who has 0 income pay for this insurance. I was not referred to any given tax breaks or help with paying. So I will NOT be insured by the deadline. Penalties are going to be one percent of your income on your taxes next year or $95 a month. I printed all this out, because I just couldn't believe it.
Good news? Floridians will not be penalized for not having insurance because our lovely Governor did not extend Medicaid. Due to this non extension, those who should have been able to get Medicaid under the new law, can't. Why would our Governor not extend Medicaid?? Because he wants to save money so he can say what goo he has done. Why did a FEDERAL law go into the hands of each individual state? This makes no sense. Why is their no uniformity and rules that all states have to abide by? This Affordable Care Act was SUPPOSED to make sure no one went uninsured. Just by my experience I can tell that in Florida, their are still going to be a lot of uninsured people. Hope the Governor has put money aside to pay the hospitals when some of these people get ill and have no choice but to go to a hospital because they can't afford a doctor's visit and any tests that may be needed. The question that has been unanswered since I became unemployed and could not get Medicaid is: Why? I obviously don't make enough money. They can check my bank and see my low balance. My boyfriend is not responsible for paying my health insurance, he is not my husband and really is not responsible for me. He could kick me out today and I would have to leave, because he pays the bills. He would have no power or water cause that is in my name so I would shut it off, but other than that I have no say so. He pays everything, even if it's in my name. So how am I supposed to get insurance???
Can you believe I was told that I was NOT eligible for Medicaid, and I had to look for insurance on the Marketplace website??? The lowest quote from them was $350 and that was for really bad coverage. Paid only 60 percent, high ded. and high co-pays. I ask this question: How does someone who has 0 income pay for this insurance. I was not referred to any given tax breaks or help with paying. So I will NOT be insured by the deadline. Penalties are going to be one percent of your income on your taxes next year or $95 a month. I printed all this out, because I just couldn't believe it.
Good news? Floridians will not be penalized for not having insurance because our lovely Governor did not extend Medicaid. Due to this non extension, those who should have been able to get Medicaid under the new law, can't. Why would our Governor not extend Medicaid?? Because he wants to save money so he can say what goo he has done. Why did a FEDERAL law go into the hands of each individual state? This makes no sense. Why is their no uniformity and rules that all states have to abide by? This Affordable Care Act was SUPPOSED to make sure no one went uninsured. Just by my experience I can tell that in Florida, their are still going to be a lot of uninsured people. Hope the Governor has put money aside to pay the hospitals when some of these people get ill and have no choice but to go to a hospital because they can't afford a doctor's visit and any tests that may be needed. The question that has been unanswered since I became unemployed and could not get Medicaid is: Why? I obviously don't make enough money. They can check my bank and see my low balance. My boyfriend is not responsible for paying my health insurance, he is not my husband and really is not responsible for me. He could kick me out today and I would have to leave, because he pays the bills. He would have no power or water cause that is in my name so I would shut it off, but other than that I have no say so. He pays everything, even if it's in my name. So how am I supposed to get insurance???
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